Love: Is there a bad one, really?
A friend was recently bemoaning the relationship of another friend who had moved away to be with a woman he loved. There were many reasons to dislike the situation: children from a previous relationship, socioeconomic differences, and an unsettled financial situation for all of them. Did I mention he moved away? It made me marvel at the power of love. The friend in love has literally thrown everything away from his old life to be with someone. It's astonishing: I can't get people to change their ways when it makes total sense; slow down the drinking, stop spending money you don't have, get a job, clean up your life, get a haircut. No amount of logic can make a person initiate personal change, because they don't WANT to change. Enter love. Suddenly, the question becomes, what do I have to change about myself to be with that person? To the friend who's not in love, it looks like it's going to end badly. But how bad could it be? Love is making your friend want t...