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2 - Character Defects of the ADD Adult

The "Character Defects" of ADD Unreliable - Doesn't follow through on promises Late - for meetings, classes, projects, bills Liar - Can't count on an accurate statement - incorrect memory of events Doing the Wrong Task - Incompetent or Disorganized Lazy - Doesn't do assignments Daydreamer - Seems to not pay attention Trouble - Impulsive poor decisions Forgetful - Misplacing items, missing appointments Bad with Money - Late Payments, Bounced Checks  Slow - Pace of work lags others We all strive to have "good character," behaving morally and responsibly in society. Behaving in any of the listed ways reflects poorly on your moral fiber. These are viewed as character flaws. However, these are all behaviors of an ADHD person.  This is at the core of the problems ADDs face, because we get feedback that we are "bad" people. As my son once said, "I suck at life." This compounds the frustration we feel about why we can't do the things othe...

4-ADD is an incorrect moniker - I have plenty of attention - it's a concentration deficit - Solution DO IT NOW

It's not that I can't pay attention; I am super sensitive to all kinds of things pulling my attention. I pay attention to many things at once. In fact, when you google "how to improve attention," you don't get much - what you learn is how to GET someone's attention. The correct diagnosis is Concentration deficit.  DO IT NOW When I analyze my ADD and procrastination, it comes down to fear of a hard task. I choose easy, transactional tasks to feel like I am doing things, but the truth is that all tasks are hard. The transactional tasks are not productive. So I vow to take a task, DO IT THEN, and do not stop until it is done. Half-finished is un-done HALF-FINISHED IS UN DONE You know what I mean if you have ever picked up someone else's half-finished work and tried to finish it. You are really starting anew. It's not different when you are an ADD, and you leave a piece of work undone. You spend just as much time getting back into it, seeing what is done a...